I’m torn between my friend group and my friend’s wife and son

DEAR ABBY: After knowing my friend Doug for 30 years, I have recently heard rumors about his inappropriate behavior towards women in our circle of friends. Although I did not witness it firsthand, I believe the rumors are credible based on his actions. This has led me to distance myself from Doug, especially since one of the victims is a close friend of mine. Despite feeling guilty for maintaining a relationship with him, I am struggling with how to address the situation without causing harm to his family or dishonoring the victim. What should I do? — TORN IN WISCONSIN

DEAR TORN: If the rumors about Doug’s behavior are credible, it is important to address them. Consider discussing your concerns with Doug’s wife, as she deserves to be aware of the situation. Additionally, if Doug’s behavior is not influenced by alcohol or impairment, he may need medical evaluation. It is crucial to prioritize the well-being of the victims and take appropriate action in this situation.

DEAR ABBY: I recently started a new job and found myself in a situation where I had to discuss my deceased sibling. While I miss her dearly, I have accepted her passing and moved forward. How should I handle questions about a deceased sibling in social settings without dampening the mood? — AWKWARD IN MASSACHUSETTS

DEAR AWKWARD: You handled the situation appropriately by briefly mentioning your deceased sibling without delving into the circumstances of her passing. It is perfectly acceptable to keep personal matters private in social settings and choose to share memories of your sibling in a more intimate setting if desired.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box